Distractions

Q: Analyze your personality.

"I’m lazy and impatient. I’m also surprisingly stubborn. Basically, I don’t compromise.”

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— 20 hours ago with 369 notes
#arashi  #satoshi ohno 
"Oh well, what the hell, you obviously want to be alone, so I’ll leave you alone. Go ahead and think away to your heart’s content! But don’t get me wrong. I’m not totally mad at you. I’m just sad. You were so nice to me when I was having my problems, but now that you’re having yours, it seems there’s not a thing I can do for you. You’re all locked up in that little world of yours, and when I try knocking on the door, you just sort of look up for a second and go right back inside."
Haruki Murakami, Norwegian Wood (via stxxz)

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— 1 day ago with 467 notes
#quotable  #haruki murakami 
"It’s human nature to instantly judge others. It goes back to our ancient life-or-death need to decide whether to fight or flee. But in their haste to size others up, people are often wrong. We miss out on knowing some exceptional people by doing that, as I’m sure I did."
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#kareem abdul-jabbar  #esquire  #quotable 
"It’s important in life to conclude things properly. Only then can you let go. Otherwise you are left with words you should have said but never did, and your heart is heavy with remorse."
Yann Martel
— 1 day ago
#yann martel  #life of pi  #truth 
I don’t want people calling me an idol. Nor a talent, or an entertainer. Just Ohno Satoshi works fine for me, I want people to see me simply as a person.

(Source: sunblades, via niji-tan)

— 2 days ago with 216 notes
#arashi  #satoshi ohno 

しゃべくり007 2014.04.07: “No romance drama with Arashi members in it”

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— 2 days ago with 305 notes
#arashi  #kazunari ninomiya 
"We shall not cease from exploration
And the end of all our exploring
Will be to arrive where we started
And know the place for the first time."
 T.S. Eliot, Four Quartets (via stxxz)

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— 2 days ago with 30 notes
#quotable  #ts eliot 
run--dmt asked: How can I deal with insecurity? It's becoming a problem in my daily life & seriously affecting my relationship..


Answer:

lazyyogi:

Insecurity isn’t really different from uncertainty. However, when you are insecure, of what are you uncertain?

Insecurity is not healed by means of security. Insecurity boils down to uncertainty of identity. 

Our happiness, love, and freedom are indelible qualities of our real nature. This is why we naturally move toward and seek those things. 

If we seek those qualities externally, we either become insecure about losing them or anxious about securing them or some mix of the two. When we awaken to those immediate qualities within, there is peace. 

This is the meaning behind the Buddha’s statement: It is better to conquer yourself than to win a thousand battles. Then the victory is yours. It cannot be taken from you, not by angels or by demons, heaven or hell. 

Your real nature does not need to be attained or sought after. It is enough to stop seeking yourself where you are not. Because love, freedom, and happiness are only the formless radiance of your being, you cannot “get” them elsewhere. As a result, you cannot lose them either!

Those forms of happiness which seem to come from elsewhere are subject to the impermanence of the circumstances that allowed them. Be it a relationship, a life situation, a job, or whatever. The happiness is only ever your radiant Being yet the confusion as to the place from which it comes is what makes insecurity possible. 

When we start externalizing our experience of and search for happiness, freedom, and love, we also externalize our identity. We invariably derive a sense of self from that which we regard as the source of our happiness. If that source is threatened, we feel threatened, our identity feels threatened. 

Whenever you feel insecure, don’t run away from it. Don’t try to drown it with security or attempts to affirm security through other people. Instead, investigate it. What makes this feeling possible?

The practice of tonglen helps to cultivate a presence of mind to stay with the feelings we would rather get rid of while instead meeting those feelings with spaciousness, ease, and compassion. 

A great book with which to begin is The Places That Scare You by Pema Chodron. 

Namaste :)

— 2 days ago with 143 notes
#lazyyogi